Just Do It!
Instead of saying, "Let me know if you need anything...a meal or someone to watch the kids." Say, "I would like to bring you a meal this week, which day & time would work best for you?" or "I would like to take your kids to the park on Saturday, would that be o'kay?" She is most likely overwhelmed with all that is going on in her life. She can't even think straight so she probably won't have any immediate answers when she's asked, "How can I help you?" or "What do you need?" As the old Nike Ad. said, "Just Do It!" Bring over meals, babysit their kids, do their gardening, give gas cards & gift cards to local restaurants. I even heard of a group of friends pitching in to hire a maid to clean their friend's house.Our friends, Mike & Robin, were a huge blessing to us when Christian was in the hospital. Mike would just call Kempton up and ask him to go to lunch. Robin would bless Christian with gifts for his bedside and also give me gifts. They bought us a gas card because we had to travel each day to the hospital. They did all of this without asking. We felt so encouraged & loved by their service to us. So, do whatever you can to help your friend's family. They will appreciate any effort you do to show you care.
Molly Piper wrote a detailed list of "10 Tips for Bringing Meals to a Grieving Friend." It is very informative & insightful.
(Read the previous posts in this series.)