Saturday, January 22, 2011
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Monday, January 17, 2011
"…God’s Word to the Christian should be like bread to the hungry man (Matt.4:4) or like water to the thirsty deer (Ps. 42:1). By keeping its commands, we keep ourselves pure (Ps. 119:9). By following its guidance, we have a light for our paths (Ps. 119:105). By meditating on it, we find blessing and joy (Ps. 1:1-2). And by wrestling with it, we find our lives being changed and sanctified (Heb. 4:12). It is our perfect guide and our ultimate authority (Ps. 19:7-11)—because it is the very Word of God. Listen to how one writer describes this magnificent book (John MacArthur, of course!):
This book contains: the mind of God, the state of man, the way of salvation, the doom of sinners, and the happiness of believers.
Its doctrine is holy, its precepts are binding, its histories are true, and its decisions are immutable. Read it to be wise, believe it to be saved, and practice it to be holy.
It contains light to direct you, food to support you, and comfort to cheer you. It is the traveler’s map, the pilgrim’s staff, the pilot’s compass, the soldier’s sword, and the Christian’s charter. Here heaven is open, and the gates of hell are disclosed.
Christ is the grand subject, our good its design, and the glory of God its end. It should fill the memory, rule the heart, and guide the feet.
Read it slowly, frequently, and prayerfully. It is a mine of wealth, health to the soul, and a river of pleasure. It is given to you here in this life, will be opened at the judgment, and is established forever.
It involves the highest responsibility, will reward the greatest labor, and condemn all who trifle with its contents."
Taken from Fool’s Gold by John MacArthur, article by Dan Dumas
Saturday, January 8, 2011
by Lanae Doiron
Siblings of a child with special needs have a unique role. While parents can't shield brothers and sisters from all the effects of disability, they can entrust them to God and His calling for them as special sibs.
Here are some ideas to help parents:
- Pray: for growth in specific character qualities as a result of the challenges the sibling faces. for the sibling's protection in areas where we fall short as parents, for a person who will give them attention and a safe place to share frustrations, and for a future spouse that will be accepting of the sibling with special needs.
- Educate adults in their lives about the issues siblings face, i.e. daycare providers, teachers or youth group leaders.
- Avoid projecting that the sibling should be angry or sad. Every child is different.
- Watch the compliant sibling that seems okay. He or she may be fine. Or, he or she may be an expert at not putting more burdens on Dad and Mom.
- Avoid downplaying the sibling's emotions such as anger. Acknowledge feelings.
- When a sibling is hurting and believing a lie such as "I'm not as important," model how to think through what is true.
- Admit when you make mistakes and apologize.
- Follow up with siblings after a disturbing incident such as a meltdown. Ask how they are doing.
- Encourage your child to keep a journal and/or write a journal to your child.
- Talk about all your kids in conversations, not just the special needs child.
- Spend time alone with siblings during times such as naptime or early bedtime for the disabled child, or on a date night (The Secret Keeper Girl, by Dannah Gresh has ideas).
- If someone can watch your special needs child, go on outings with the rest of the family.
- Have appropriate expectations and chores for the child with special needs.
- Respect your sibling's space and privacy. If necessary, put locks on bedroom doors to protect his things.
- Help your sibling get connected with other sibs through groups like Sib Shops (ARC) or Joni and Friends Family Retreats.